Some people seem to be naturally inclined to discourage and put people down. They enjoy this behavior or so it seems. However, there are also some people who feel inclined to encourage and lift people up.
While I have tried to be a good daughter, wife, mother, friend, employee, and Church member, I have experienced a lot of discouragement throughout my lifetime. You would expect to find encouraging people in churches, no? You do, but not enough of them. There seems to be a shortage of encouraging people.
I have survived three church splits and one that nearly split apart. This should explain some of the problems I have endured without any details.
At this time, I have stopped going to church. Why? There is a saying, "the straw that broke the camel's back" has happened to me. My book ABSOLUE PROOF THAT GOD IS REALLY REAL addresses some things I have dealt with in my walk of faith.
The last "straw" happened to me when I joined a Christian Book Club with members of a church I was attending. The first night, I did not feel welcome and thought it was hopefully my imagination.
We met in different members' houses. It became my turn to host a meeting. I served refreshments. During the discussion of the book I had chosen, some members annihilated me, in my own house. Some remained quiet. I assumed they agreed with the members who were verbally criticizing my book. No member tried to take up for me. When they left, I told my husband, "That is the last straw."
When the worst offensive member of the group died within a month, I thought of this scripture, and it made me wonder: She certainly made me stumble.
Matthew 18:6 NIV “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.”
Note: I have not quit going to church because I am too sensitive or tough enough to accept criticism because I have dealt with it for many years.
This quote best describes my feeling:
“The greatest win is walking away and choosing not to engage in drama and toxic energy at all.”
― Lalah Delia